Magic
She said I was magic.
My heart skipped a beat. My thoughts raced. “That can’t be true, but she said it.”
I wanted to move the conversation along quickly.
I wished I had let it land. To believe it. To fill my tank from the bottom of the barrel where it sat for more than a few days.
I choose not to accept it. Ushering the compliment away. Out of fear of looking prideful with my inner critic screaming nasties at me.
Why are compliments so difficult to accept?
What does this denial do for us?
NOTHING.
Taking a compliment to the mind’s court of appeals to argue and prove it wrong is my default reaction.
When you get a compliment, why not have fun with it?
Investigate it.
How might the compliment be true?
How might something be true is a powerful question I've brought to my daily mind management practice as I continue to learn more about myself and my work and to see what's working and not working and what I want to do differently.
The definition of magic is the power to influence thinking.
Yes, I want to influence and help make a difference in the lives of my clients and readers. I want to influence them to help shed the layers of disappointment, distraction, and pervasive destruction that take over their thoughts. I want to influence my clients and readers to allow for new thinking, possibilities, and frameworks that bring them freedom, clarity, and confidence.
Influence is foundational in the pursuit of helping others.
Doing an audit allowed me to take in and accept the surprising compliment, not in an outwardly prideful way but as a navigational guide.
I chose to receive it, even though it feels a bit uncomfortable.
Using it to believe in me and my future.
What if accepting the compliment isn’t about you but about them?
What if they needed to share the compliment to help in their understanding, help them recognize someone other than themselves, and help them be who they needed to be today?
My client wanted to embrace a new identity around a conflict she was having with her own thinking and limited beliefs rooted in longstanding behaviors that were not serving her.
With a few coaching questions, she went down a funnel of discovery, letting go of resistance. She allowed herself to become the scientist of her own mind. Open to possibilities. She then defined what "enough" was around a triggering topic. She now had a new thought and plan forward.
Take a compliment.
Then
Give a compliment.
It’s magical.
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One Unleashed Graduate Shared...
"Christina guided our group in exercises to explore and get clear on what success means to each of us, encouraging daily journaling. We identified roadblocks that our own minds often create and then learned practical strategies to overcome them. Looking back at our past, we learned how to use our experiences to fuel our future aspirations."
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