A Bold Ask Practice
Women often attempt to handle everything on their own, balancing careers, family, and the daily demands with a never-ending to-do list … and NOT ask for help.
That was me for 30 years. My life may have looked perfect on paper, but I felt perfectly miserable on the inside. I was showing up each day by default. I would look at my calendar to direct my days instead of creating the week I wanted.
I believed things happened to me, not because of me.
When I finally realized that the biggest influencer over me was, well, me, it was a game changer. Learning to take control starts with one simple yet bold request.
Boldly asking for what YOU want.
I shared my Bold Ask practice with Lesley Jane Seymour on the Reinvent Yourself Podcast, episode #236.
I'm a huge fan of Lesley. I began following Lesley when she was the editor extraordinaire of MORE Magazine. Her monthly Editor's Letter always spoke to me. Today, Lesley is the Founder of the Covey Club, a membership for women reinventing their lives.
A few months ago, Lesley spoke at an event I attended, and I thought, what if I could be a guest on her podcast? A bold thought. I then asked a friend for her email address and nervously emailed. A bold ask that turned into a fun podcast conversation, leading a workshop inside of The Covey Club and writing this article for her website.
One bold ask had a ripple effect.
What I’ve learned by putting this protocol into action is that, more often than not, I receive a positive response. A YES to my bold ask. Those dream ideas, wants, and wishful thinking get accepted and put into action. I can look back at my highlights from the last year, and a lot of it was due to — or because of — a bold ask.
Knowing this, the asks have gotten easier. When I started this practice, I would go into overthinking and ruminate about what “they” would think about me or how “they” would judge me for my bold (and sometimes brazen) ask.
Today, I no longer make a negative response mean anything about me or the ask. This huge shift has made me focus on the next ask instead of brooding over a No.
I’m no longer attached to the outcome. If a bold ask comes back with a big “No,” I tell myself it’s not a “No,” but a “Not yet” or “Not now,” and I move on to the next one.
Now it's your turn.
Make a list of bold and outrageous asks that would make a meaningful difference to you and your care, and see what comes up. For all aspects of your life. For the people in your life. If you were to ask one thing from them to help you, to support you, to guide you, what would it be? Seeing this long list will help you see what's important to you and see things with a bit more focus.
Life is not a waiting room. You get what you ask for.
Now, go ask for what you want and see what boldly comes.
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